the process through which those who love and trust Jesus Christ effectively take on his character. When this process is what it should be, they increasingly live their lives as he would if he were in their place. Their outward conformity to his example and his instructions rises toward fullness as their inward sources of action take on the same character as his. They come more and more to share his vision, love, hope, feelings, and habits.I hope you'll reflect on this paragraph phrase by phrase. What is success for a pastor or a church? I'd say it is when this process is taking place in more and more members of the congregation. Period. If you have this you can toss out all other measures of "success". If you don't have this, nothing else counts.
The same is true for our personal lives. First you internalize Jesus' character and person, his "vision, love, hope, feelings" become your own. Then your good tree bears good fruit as you externalize your inner realities into outward actions.
This, not the hokie-pokie, is what it's all about.